The Dazzling Soul

A Letter To my Love:  Where to even begin? I am writing to you today to remind you of how much I love you. Yes, I know it is not your birthday, or Valentine’s Day, or any other special occasion. It’s just an ordinary day; a Thursday to be exact. I’m writing to you today because I just came to the realization that life has been extremely chaotic lately and I have been selfishly choosing to focus on myself instead of you and our relationship. I would first like to start off by telling you that never in my life had I thought that I would ever find someone who loves me the way you do.  Not that I believed that I was incapable of being loved, but I simply could not fathom finding someone who could ever appreciate and cherish me the way I dreamed about. That is, until you walked into my life. Even when life gets in the way, I still love you more than words can describe. You are constantly on my mind as I go about my everyday business, either directly or subconsciously in...

Now, when you say negative people, I am presuming you are referring to people who drain you out, who put you down and who make you feel lousy about yourself. After they leave you feel awful. Am I right? We ALL have such people in their lives. Sometimes it is not possible to ignore them as you are living with them! Here are five things you can do: 1. Examine the source: Mostly negativity comes from jealousy. I have someone in my life (whom I cannot avoid) who leaves me feeling drained. When I thought about the things that this person said, I realised it was stemming from deep jealousy. At that moment, I got good insight into  their motive--why they were like that. It didn't stop them from making the same barbs and negative comments, but it sure helped me understand where the rot was stemming from. 2. It's not about you , its about them: Often the only way they can make themselves feel better is if they put you down. The most successful people are the ones who ...

The reasons for cheating could be innumerable. In almost all cases, the cheating partner does not pay attention to what can easily leave the relationship in mayhem. Certainly, the effects of extra-marital affairs are devastating and victims may take long to get over the misery. Infidelity can occur even in the strongest of marital relationships. An extra-marital challenges the sanctity and strength of a relationship, causing turmoil in personal and social world of people. Extramarital affair seems like a very common phenomenon these days. However, even when an affair seems to be working, it will eventually cause severe damage. The worst thing with extramarital affairs is that they usually ruin the life of a person who did nothing wrong. It is also the leading cause of divorce throughout the world.Even when a partner is able to forgive the cheating partner nothing feels like good old times. It is very common for partners trying to forget the extramarital affair of ...

Virginity is considered a special gift that should be reserved for the spouse post-marriage India has made great strides towards becoming an open and liberal society in the last couple of decades. But despite this positive change, we still haven’t gotten over a normal part of life — losing your virginity. It’s still considered a very big deal — a sin, in fact — for many in India. It should come as no surprise that the taboo of virginity is applied more strongly in the case of women in India. It’s no wonder that honor killings are a common occurrence and the attitude of blaming the rape victim is largely accepted. A girl who holds on to her V card and waits to have sex until she gets married is believed to be pure and pious. Otherwise, the girl is considered corrupted, impure and somehow no longer worthy of love and respect. While such beliefs are, of course, remnants of a patriarchal past, what’s shocking is the double standard in this regard. Men are exempted...

Hello, all! It’s been so long! I’m afraid I haven’t been in much a writing mood lately, but I figured I should check in and let people know I’m still alive.  Changing is hard. Okay, lots of things are hard when you’re depressed. Getting up in the morning. Finding the energy to do everyday tasks. Looking for the will to go on. You know, all that good stuff. But changing yourself and your thoughts is especially hard. It’s a strange battle, isn’t it? Often, you know what you ought to do or have to do. And often, you just can’t seem to summon up the will to do it. Let’s say you want to to start exercising more, and let’s say you even found the energy to do it a couple of days. Great! That’s a good start in making a positive change in your life. Then you miss a day, or two, or three, or a month. That change didn’t go so well, and now it’s like you have to start over from the beginning. It can be demotivating. Or let’s say you’re trying to combat social isol...

Commitment can be a scary word for some people because of the implications of what it means to commit. For many, commitment symbolizes loss, feelings of being trapped or controlled. Committing to another person involves consideration of another person’s thoughts, feelings and needs which implies a loss of independence in activities and decision-making. Fear of commitment can involve many promises or life decisions. It can affect someone on issues as small as an agreement between friends to meet for coffee to as large a commitment as a decision about marriage. There are many reasons why people fear commitment. Not all reasons are the same for everyone but I want to share with you some of the more common ones that I notice in my practice that specializes in relationships. Loss of Independence There are a lot of positive feelings associated with being in charge of your own life and not having to accommodate another person. For some, fear of giving up th...

*UNERASED*         The first boy who held my hand, told me boys are not here about to here vagina's bleeding. Younger me could smell the misogyny. Vagina's are only meant to be fucked. Breasts only meant to be sucked. Mouths only meant to blow. It's true, i know. My waist meant to be compared to an hour glass. My voice only meant to quiver." Ugh, please, fast". Yet, i am silenced. For all we boiled down to is sexual interaction. Not just me, my mother, sister, friends, all quicken their pace post 8:30 in the evening. My mom telling me to wear skirts out less often. Nirbhaya and more, left forgotten. We don't wanna be India's another daughters, do we? So i wear my jeans long and wear tops high. Don't show my cleavage or any hint of my thigh. Don't want to be mistaken for wanting it. Cause if i wear less, i am more than just flaunting it. I'm risking it. Risking not my virginity, but my life. My hymen seems to be scared, told to keep it till i...

Friendships are among the most complex but meaningful relationships in our lives. These unique bonds often run deeper than family ties, and sometimes last longer than our relationships with spouses or lovers. Yet there are few agreed-upon ground rules or roadmaps… A Best Friend is the kind of person who knows you inside and out, yet associates with you anyway. They love you to the core. They know your deepest darkest secrets, and keep them forever. They know your flaws, and disregard them happily. They hold your hand when you cry and are right by your side when you're laughing so hard you can't breathe. If you have a best friend, damn, you're lucky. But if not, you could spend your entire life searching. Here I wite a letter to you for being all these years with me...for supporting me,handling my craziness Varsha about why you’re my best friend and saturate it with all the generic reasons and adorable anecdotes, but I’m not going to do that because you already ...

Hey loves!😊 Sometimes being silent can be such a refreshing wave of relief. Practice being silent at times when you feel stress or any other negative emotion. Just back away from all the details by allowing yourself to be embraced by the comforting silence. Know that this too shall pass, you are doing really well and everything is working out for your highest good. Relax and enjoy the reliefgiving silence for a while. It's time for short blog!😉 Hope you all are doing well😊 Will see you soon with some more intresting stuff on!😉 Till than stay tunned stay connected!✌ Love-Hetvi❤

Love is one of the most complicated emotions of all. sometimes you fall in love with someone who can return your feelings and sometimes you don’t, sometimes you fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you back, you might end up getting hurt and heartbroken when someone you loved more than anything in the world leaves you. Love can be sweet, when you use the right ingredients, but sometimes you fail and it will become the most bitter thing in the world. You keep trying to find your true soulmates, but this time you will be armed with some good techniques that will help you when you find your prince charming. This book contains tips and suggestions to help you find the right guy and make him fall in love with you. What women don’t know is, even men want a lasting relationship and even they want to marry the woman of their dreams. Dating someone you already know is one thing, but when you go out on a first date with someone who you do not know very well, that is complet...

WELL YOU MAY ENTER THE COFFIN OF WORDS, HERE YOU WONT SEE THE MIGHTY SWORDS. SAVE YOUR GRUDGES IN YOUR DEN, WHILE I INK MY PAGES WITH MY PEN To love is to die in the arms of your lover.. With the breath of a baby and scent of a flower.. To love is to live when your soul does shiver.. Like the sun through the moon is ready to deliver.. My ink heard a tale of some stupid love.. All love is stupid but here was the lily in love.. The only one who shines in this garden of mesh.. The rose next to me is looking so fresh.. I know he knows what I feel for him.. All the love I sing in this lovely hymn.. Or doesn’t he know that I am silly..? Doesn’t he know the beauty of this lily..? He maybe a charm but a dream is this lily.. Whose newly-knit love has gone very silly.. I will ask him for a date with me.. In a garden of mesh where stands no tree.. Where we will sit and drink some air.. Breathe some love and show some care.. Where our eyes will talk and our lips will list...

I’ve actually never spent a single Valentine’s Day with a guy and you know what, I think it’s going pretty well. t's Valentine's week! Love Matters is bringing you articles about Valentine's Day all week! Wish you a happy Valentine's Day! I’m not kidding when I say that because according to me, Valentine’s Day is way too much pressure on love and relationships. I have nothing against the holiday, for I think the idea behind it is a nice sentiment. THE DAY Certainly, we could go on about how it’s a holiday created by card companies etc. but that’s the main issue here. According to me, if you make Valentine’s Day about finding a Valentine and expressing your feelings then you’ve got too much to think about already. Why do you need a day to summon up the courage to approach somebody anyway? You can do that any day that you choose to. If anything I’d do it on some other day than Valentine’s Day because it’s quite ...

It took a while, to get like this; true smiles and true happiness, enjoying every moment of every day, being friendly to everyone and expecting no reward. I once was sad, bitter and cold. All of my smiles were fake and followed by a feeling of empty coldness. I felt numb or no emotion even when I was surrounded by what I knew mattered most. Even though I knew I had all I could ever need, I couldn’t help but fixate on what I didn’t have. When I thought I had enough I wanted more; once I got what I wanted, I found something else to want. No matter the goodness that was right in front of me, I was never satisfied. Constantly I waited for something that was never going to come. I hated being sad, but I was addicted to it. Yes, I wanted to get better, yet I was in love with the feeling of empty despair and sorrow that came with every day. This is confusing to understand, but trust me, it is far more complicated. The struggles in your life are essential to shaping you into the p...

Unpe khatam chahat hogi, Phir na kisipe ye inayat hogi, Kuch is tarah yaad karenge unko, Na unko khabar hogi na zamane ko shikaayat hogi..... These words seems so foolish these days for many.I still think they are fooling themselves... Girls have always misunderstood boys... Boys try to show that they are smart and they dont care even if his girlfriend leaves him alone. But only boys know the truth that how much they suffer.Boys never like to reveal even in their friend circle that they are depressed and their heart is yelling and crying like hell... But only boys know that they really miss their love and they always care for her no matter where she is and with whom she is. I accept the fact that boys are physically attracted.But that is how nature has made them.It dosent mean they dont care and love.  EVEN BOYS SHOULD ACCEPT THE FACT THAT... A NOT SO SERIOUS RELATION ( timepass as we say ) EVENTUALLY AS TIME PASSES TURNS OUT INTO SERIOUS RELATION AND IT BECOMES HEA...

The beginning of the New Year represents the turning of a proverbial page, allowing people to feel as though they have a fresh new start. This also tends to prompt the setting of New Year’s Resolutions, intended to achieve positive change in one’s overall health, fitness level, or lifestyle in general. In theory, that’s FANTASTIC! Here is the rub, though; most New Year’s resolutions are broken by Jan. 15! Then we slide back into the old habits again, often no further ahead than when we started out, and also sometimes feeling ashamed that we have not reached our goa The beginning of the New Year represents the turning of a proverbial page, allowing people to feel as though they have a fresh new start.  This also tends to prompt the setting of New Year’s Resolutions, intended to achieve positive change in one’s overall health, fitness level, or lifestyle in general. In theory, that’s FANTASTIC! Here is the rub, though; most New Year...

“How do you know when it's over?" "Maybe when you feel more in love with your memories than with the person standing in front of you.” ―  Gunnar Ardelius ,  from the book   I Need You More Than I Love You and I Love You to Bits I cam across the above quote and thought it was beautiful. It led me think how would you really know it is over? If you are constantly thinking about how good used to be, maybe it time to rethink about your relationship. If you are always thinking about someone else even when you are with them, then that is a sign too. If you are fighting over and over, about the same things with no end in sight, maybe that is an indication too. If you feel no spark or joy at the thought of being with them, chances are it is over. And finally if the thought of life without them in it, seems as a welcoe relief--then it is definitely over. But don't make a final conclusion yet. Move away. Give it space. And time. Sometimes that is all a ...

The TV channels got a story that even the most imaginative fiction writers would shudder to create as it sounded—well, too fictional to be true. As we squirmed, wriggled and shuffled uncomfortably, glued to the TV sets that blared the ‘facts’ or purported facts, the unfolding drama took turns that would make fifty shades darker pale in comparison. And this was a ‘true-story’ too to boot—or so they said even as the quest for the truth continues. Just as I was recovering from the absurdity and the shock of the ridiculous depths to which humanity can sink, I was assaulted by yet another story---the Gokul case which appears to be even more sordid. The techie who has been arrested for murdering his wife and for sending hoax bomb threats to Kempegowda International airport, Delhi and Mumbai airports has also been booked for sending a message to an Industrialist based in new Delhi, demanding one crore. According to the local newspaper reports, he wanted to get back with his old flame ...

Red Chillies Entertainment, Dharma Productions and Hope Productions’ Dear Zindagi (UA) is the story of a girl suffering from depression and how she gets cured of it. Kaira (Alia Bhatt) is an upcoming cinematographer, very good at her work. She has shot many ad films and is keen to now shoot a full-length feature film, having so far only filled in for a cameraman who may have taken ill. Kaira has been into relationships but they’ve always ended in break-ups. While Kaira lives in Bombay, her parents live in Goa. The very thought of going to Goa to spend time with her father and mother puts her off. In fact, she can barely make telephone conversations with them. Kaira tries to put on a brave front but it is clear that she is not a very happy person. Just recently, she has had a break-up with Sid (Angad Bedi) because she confesses to him that she has slept with her colleague, film director Raghuvendra (Kunal Kapoor). Shortly thereafter, Raghuvendra gives her the good news that he ...

1. You should be close to perfect:  Nobody is. Nobody can be. No matter how much you try, there will always be somebody who is fitter, richer, more smart, cleverer and their lives will seem ideal and perfect. But what you have to remember is you are looking at only a single dimension of their lives. You can never be *perfect*. And you don’t have to be, in order to be happy. 2. Others should behave how you want them to : Another myth that most people buy into is that you would be happy if ___________ behaved in a certain way. If only he would_______ or If only she would____________.(Fill in the blanks suitably). Thing is you do not control anybody’s behaviour, but your own. If you control your reaction and expectations, you can be happy. 3.More money makes you happy : It doesn’t! Look at the people who have more money than you do. Examine their lives. Are they really happier than you? (I highly doubt it) 4.A particular person can make you happy: When I was a little girl, my ...

On 9th November our Prime Minister Narendra Modi announced the demonetisation of the 500 and 1000 INR notes. Taking the country and allegedly even his cabinet by stun, the move would be effective from midnight onwards. He gave his countrymen 50 days to exchange the now illegal tender notes with legal tender. It was by far the boldest move by a prime minister economically, who touted the move as a means to eradicate corruption and black money. To me, a tax paying citizen of the country, I felt it is a welcome change to bring those who evade taxes to start paying up. It was meant well but was low on logistics – the sting of the change started being felt on the third day, when citizens started queuing up at banks and ATM’s for hours. The questions on daily wage earners minds were whether they should be at work or whether they should be standing in queue for the current operation? Also, as reported on many media channels, people queued up only to find cash run out of ATM’s. At my work ...