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TO LOVE OF MY LIFE

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A Letter To my Love:  Where to even begin? I am writing to you today to remind you of how much I love you. Yes, I know it is not your birthday, or Valentine’s Day, or any other special occasion. It’s just an ordinary day; a Thursday to be exact. I’m writing to you today because I just came to the realization that life has been extremely chaotic lately and I have been selfishly choosing to focus on myself instead of you and our relationship. I would first like to start off by telling you that never in my life had I thought that I would ever find someone who loves me the way you do.  Not that I believed that I was incapable of being loved, but I simply could not fathom finding someone who could ever appreciate and cherish me the way I dreamed about. That is, until you walked into my life. Even when life gets in the way, I still love you more than words can describe. You are constantly on my mind as I go about my everyday business, either directly or subconsciously in the back
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HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE!

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Now, when you say negative people, I am presuming you are referring to people who drain you out, who put you down and who make you feel lousy about yourself. After they leave you feel awful. Am I right? We ALL have such people in their lives. Sometimes it is not possible to ignore them as you are living with them! Here are five things you can do: 1. Examine the source: Mostly negativity comes from jealousy. I have someone in my life (whom I cannot avoid) who leaves me feeling drained. When I thought about the things that this person said, I realised it was stemming from deep jealousy. At that moment, I got good insight into  their motive--why they were like that. It didn't stop them from making the same barbs and negative comments, but it sure helped me understand where the rot was stemming from. 2. It's not about you , its about them: Often the only way they can make themselves feel better is if they put you down. The most successful people are the ones who
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EXTRA MARTIAL AFFAIRS!

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The reasons for cheating could be innumerable. In almost all cases, the cheating partner does not pay attention to what can easily leave the relationship in mayhem. Certainly, the effects of extra-marital affairs are devastating and victims may take long to get over the misery. Infidelity can occur even in the strongest of marital relationships. An extra-marital challenges the sanctity and strength of a relationship, causing turmoil in personal and social world of people. Extramarital affair seems like a very common phenomenon these days. However, even when an affair seems to be working, it will eventually cause severe damage. The worst thing with extramarital affairs is that they usually ruin the life of a person who did nothing wrong. It is also the leading cause of divorce throughout the world.Even when a partner is able to forgive the cheating partner nothing feels like good old times. It is very common for partners trying to forget the extramarital affair of
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VIRGINITY AN INDIAN TABOO!!

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Virginity is considered a special gift that should be reserved for the spouse post-marriage India has made great strides towards becoming an open and liberal society in the last couple of decades. But despite this positive change, we still haven’t gotten over a normal part of life — losing your virginity. It’s still considered a very big deal — a sin, in fact — for many in India. It should come as no surprise that the taboo of virginity is applied more strongly in the case of women in India. It’s no wonder that honor killings are a common occurrence and the attitude of blaming the rape victim is largely accepted. A girl who holds on to her V card and waits to have sex until she gets married is believed to be pure and pious. Otherwise, the girl is considered corrupted, impure and somehow no longer worthy of love and respect. While such beliefs are, of course, remnants of a patriarchal past, what’s shocking is the double standard in this regard. Men are exempted
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CHANGING IS HARD!!!

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Hello, all! It’s been so long! I’m afraid I haven’t been in much a writing mood lately, but I figured I should check in and let people know I’m still alive.  Changing is hard. Okay, lots of things are hard when you’re depressed. Getting up in the morning. Finding the energy to do everyday tasks. Looking for the will to go on. You know, all that good stuff. But changing yourself and your thoughts is especially hard. It’s a strange battle, isn’t it? Often, you know what you ought to do or have to do. And often, you just can’t seem to summon up the will to do it. Let’s say you want to to start exercising more, and let’s say you even found the energy to do it a couple of days. Great! That’s a good start in making a positive change in your life. Then you miss a day, or two, or three, or a month. That change didn’t go so well, and now it’s like you have to start over from the beginning. It can be demotivating. Or let’s say you’re trying to combat social isolatio
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FEAR OF COMMITMENT IN RELATIONSHIP!!

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Commitment can be a scary word for some people because of the implications of what it means to commit. For many, commitment symbolizes loss, feelings of being trapped or controlled. Committing to another person involves consideration of another person’s thoughts, feelings and needs which implies a loss of independence in activities and decision-making. Fear of commitment can involve many promises or life decisions. It can affect someone on issues as small as an agreement between friends to meet for coffee to as large a commitment as a decision about marriage. There are many reasons why people fear commitment. Not all reasons are the same for everyone but I want to share with you some of the more common ones that I notice in my practice that specializes in relationships. Loss of Independence There are a lot of positive feelings associated with being in charge of your own life and not having to accommodate another person. For some, fear of giving up th
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UNERASED

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*UNERASED*         The first boy who held my hand, told me boys are not here about to here vagina's bleeding. Younger me could smell the misogyny. Vagina's are only meant to be fucked. Breasts only meant to be sucked. Mouths only meant to blow. It's true, i know. My waist meant to be compared to an hour glass. My voice only meant to quiver." Ugh, please, fast". Yet, i am silenced. For all we boiled down to is sexual interaction. Not just me, my mother, sister, friends, all quicken their pace post 8:30 in the evening. My mom telling me to wear skirts out less often. Nirbhaya and more, left forgotten. We don't wanna be India's another daughters, do we? So i wear my jeans long and wear tops high. Don't show my cleavage or any hint of my thigh. Don't want to be mistaken for wanting it. Cause if i wear less, i am more than just flaunting it. I'm risking it. Risking not my virginity, but my life. My hymen seems to be scared, told to keep it till i
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