PARENTS---- BACK OFF!!

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Today I watched half of an interesting movie on Netflix. It was called One Day, 
and it starred  Anne Hathaway and Jim Sturges.

In the movie, the parents of Dexter (Jim Sturgess) disapprove of the career choice their son has made. He is a succesful TV presenter, but the show he presents is 'crass' and 'tasteless' according to his parents who feel that he could have done better. He however enjoys his work, and he is having fun.

It made me think about parenting. Many parents in India too, disapprove of their children's career choices. The adult/teen child might want to be a graphic designer, but the parents might want him/her to take a corporate job.Or the adult/teen child might want to become a musician or a fitness instructor or a yoga teacher.But the parents may not think it is good enough.

I know many people who never thought they would end up in their present day career, as their ambition was something totally different. But their parents thought that was too lowly for them.

I think parents should back off from the decisions an adult child makes. (of course as long as they are not decisions which harm them, like driving drunk and doing drugs)
Allow them to make mistakes. Do not deprive them of that. If you do not let them make mistakes, and learn from them, you are depriving them of a chance to grow.

Think about it, and leave me your thoughts. Do you know any instances like what I mention? (too much parental influence). If you care to share, I am listening.

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